Category: FAQs

  • What’s a changemaker?

    We love labels. And identity. Humans go apeshit for it.

    So, maybe you call yourself a founder, an entrepreneur or just a plain old human being with hopes and dreams of a world where people and planet thrive.

    But could you be a changemaker too? Let’s find out, shall we. And discover another snazzy job title to slap on your LinkedIn profile.

    Changemakers see something wrong in their world 

    You see a problem or injustice – something that needs putting right. And chances are it’s happening right on your doorstep. Maybe you’ve struggled with it yourself, or seen others close to you struggling with it too.

    Ole Kassow, social entrepreneur and founder of Cycling Without Age, is an inspiring example of what it is to be a changemaker (and from where I draw most of this definition). In his fireside chat with Happy Start-up School, he shared his story of an elderly relative facing social isolation, and many others in the same situation.

    It needn’t be a social or environmental injustice – these just happen to be areas I coach individuals in. It’s just something that fires you up and gets you out of bed in the morning. It wicks at you. 

    Put plainly, it’s where you want to make a difference in life.

    Changemakers connect ideas

    With a clear understanding of what’s important in life, you make connections (conscious or otherwise) between problems and possible solutions.  

    You might not have the right answer (yet). But you follow your curiosity, your intuition. And sure enough, something simple and elegant (eventually) comes along – a flash of genius pairing one idea to another.

    For Ole, it was the Danish love of cycling (especially in cargo bikes): as is often the case, the best ideas are the ones that stick around, often right beneath our noses.

    Changemakers experiment

    We call them experiments, but really it’s just learning and f*cking up along the way. And you love it (well, most of the time). Because it’s a very natural, human way of tackling a problem. It’s often long-winded and clumsy but it’s served us well over the last few hundred thousand years.

    Your setbacks and triumphs spur you on.

    It might feel complicated and overwhelming. Especially when the problem you’re tackling is systemic. But complex problems don’t always need complex solutions. They can be simple and elegant. Like a bicycle. 

    And people love simple, accessible ideas. They’re drawn to them. That’s how you might recruit people to your cause. 

    So part of your job as a changemaker is to break down what’s complicated into something more easily digestible.

    And one of the most powerful tools at your disposal is the humble story. These painful and enlightening experiences you’re putting yourself in front of – take note. They’ll help you spread your message to other like-minded supporters.

    Changemakers are on a quest

    OK, it might not feel like it when you’re smashing your head against a wall, but secretly, deep down, you suspect this might be your life’s calling.

    You know that because you sometimes feel sublime moments of joy, happiness and surprise. They might be fleeting and infrequent. But they’re there.

    You can see a path ahead of you. It’s daunting. And long. You might even be fearful of choosing it. But you’ve a strong suspicion it’ll change you (and the people you rope in along the way) – for the better.

    Maybe you’ve already chosen your path. You’re well on the way. But you’re distracted, pulled in too many different directions and sometimes demotivated. That can happen too. Sometimes we need to juggle priorities, and find focus by saying no instead of yes.

    Changemakers achieve more with a coach 

    You knew it was coming… At every stage of this journey, a coach’s support is invaluable. Whether it’s defining the problem, bouncing around ideas for solutions, knowing your principles, designing (and surviving) experiments, telling your tale, or coping with triumph and adversity – coaching is all about personal growth. 

    And in my coaching practice, it’s about serving others too. Yes it’s about you, but you’re a catalyst in a bigger chain of events. Let’s not forget that. If you’re my kind of human you’re saving the world.

    Put simply, coaching is space with someone who gets you – a cheerleader, trusted confidant and accountability buddy. Someone with whom and somewhere you can be yourself, focused and fired-up to make change happen.  

    Are you a changemaker?

    Here’s the thing – we all are, or at least changemakers in-waiting. The distinction is are you ready to turn some thought or aspiration into action? 

    If so, maybe you’d like some help with that?

  • Why no wanky spiritual coaching bollocks around here?

    Great question to ask a coach! I know exactly the sort of stuff you mean. Far too many coaches harp on about awakening the consciousness with positive energy, and twiddling chakras and all that bollocks.

    It really put me off getting my own coach when I began seeing what was out there on the coaching market. It was either hire a twig-chomping shaman or some smugfuck entrepreneur in a smart-casual blazer, jeans and t-shirt.

    Neither appeal to my kind of person, but let’s focus on the former and explain why.

    So why don’t you, as a coach, sound like that?

    Well, it’s a deliberate choice. All that positive mental attitude may very well be valid and effective on some people, but it’s a galaxy away from where the people I want to help are, right now. 

    When you’re in the mire, maybe wrestling with a big decision, worn out by an unfulfilling career or wondering what your next steps are with an exciting project the last thing you need is some pseudo hippy twat wittering away at you in psychobabble. 

    That’s why I describe my sort of people as do-ers, makers, thinkers – they’re practically minded. Too much woo-woo shite is a turn off.

    Sure, the mind-body coaching angle is interesting

    And there’s certainly useful stuff in there; I’m open-minded enough to draw from different perspectives (as I hope you are too).

    But only to a point. 

    I won’t ever pin my coaching practice to it. 

    Boring or scaring people who are wrestling with a very real dilemma, one that’s right in the way of where they need to be, isn’t a great way to run a coaching business. At least not one that’s accessible and delivers real-world results, sooner.

    You might find the odd subtle allusion to the ethereal alternative. But instead, my clients and I prefer to focus on pragmatic action, new ways of looking at old problems, stories and insight – all delivered in a clear, straight-talking style.

    Hopefully you’ll appreciate that too, if you’re interested in finding the right coach for you

    If you want a guru, a shaman, or an exorcist – there are plenty of coaches out there offering that sort of mystic coaching.

    If you want down-to-earth coaching, very much grounded in the here and now of the world you really live in, I’m your coach. 

    We can dream big, use our imagination and work practically towards your ideal – nothing wrong with that. But I won’t whip out a voodoo doll and reveal which crab is blocking your zodiac.

  • What really makes a coach qualified to practice?

    You’re right to ask. What certifications does a coach need to practice? What makes a coach qualified to do coaching? These are all valid questions – especially if you’re thinking about hiring a coach, and you’re looking for reassurance in the form of qualifications.

    So, what makes someone qualified to be a coach?

    The short answer is very little

    Barriers to entry in the coaching market are low. That’s why there are so many of us. Like in many sectors, literally anyone can call themselves a coach and start trading. 

    It’s yet another blessing and curse of free-market capitalism: ample choice, coaches for every occasion and type of person out there. Yet there are plenty of shysters too. 

    Ever hired a cowboy tradesperson? It’s like the wild west out there. Your apprehension is well-placed.

    The long, honest answer you know you ought to believe

    No doubt you’re reading this because you want reassurance that I’m qualified to build our coaching relationship. Maybe you’re curious about what’s possible, but you sense commitment is involved, money, time and trust. 

    It feels risky. You’re wary. I appreciate that – more than you could ever know (I’ve been in exactly the same position as you are now, when I hired my own coach!). 

    So you’re looking for something that’ll tip the balance either way, in your decision to appoint me (or a reckless charlatan). Information that’ll reduce the risk, and help you fully commit to this bold adventure you’re ready to take.

    First, let’s get coaching ‘qualifications’ out the way 

    There are plenty (and I mean plenty) of professional bodies out there who certify people as qualified coaches. Coaching federations, guilds, associations. The list goes on…

    If you believe a qualification gives you peace of mind, consider this. These bodies are all largely unregulated commercial organisations. People pay them to be certified as a coach, so it’s sort of in their interest to award the qualification. I can pay £60 without ever meeting anyone, and this time next week own an online diploma saying I’m fully qualified to coach. 

    How does that factor into your research?

    Consider the two principal types of coaching certification

    First there’s the academic, theoretically-grounded practice. This focuses on high-achieving leaders, managers and executives in corporate and professional environments. Think suits and ties, strong handshakes and spreadsheets. Line-management and power-play stuff. 

    Then there’s life, business and career coaching. This emphasises less theoretical practice, more building a profitable coaching business in a particular way, usually via a franchised model, with a catchy name that people buy the right to use. This is where you usually find the greatest diversity of coaches and more specialisation: coaches for horse-lovers, angel worshipers and adventurers.

    Where do your needs sit on this spectrum? 

    Probably the latter. If so, welcome back to that wild west again. Which particular franchise do you want to subscribe to with your certified coach?

    Just to be clear, I’m not knocking these federations and associations. I’ve immersed myself in lots of their material and resources. I respect what many of the well-intentioned ones are trying to do: regulate the unregulated.

    I also have friends who trained to be coaches with them, on immersive, week-long workshops. They all say it was interesting and kinda useful. It made them feel better about themselves too. It was symbolic and helped legitimise their transition into coaching (which tells you a lot about the real purpose of certification). And for their troubles, they gained a functional business model to get up and running, plus an official-looking piece of paper no one ever asks to see.

    Yet the smartest coaches soon realise clients are unique

    Can you honestly say your distinct circumstances, challenges, abilities are like anyone else’s?

    So the only logical response as a coach is to offer total flexibility, a completely tailored approach and open-mindedness. Coaches need myriad skills, picked up from all sorts of resources (not just a lone week-long course). 

    In short, frameworks go out the window. 

    A franchise isn’t much help in the heat of the moment, at the heart of an intense coaching conversation.

    For this reason, adaptable coaches rely more on what people call soft or interpersonal skills; their experience, natural talents, curiosity and creativity. This is tricky, broad palette stuff to teach on any coaching course. 

    That’s why so many bodies don’t really teach coaching theory and practice, they encourage coaches to tap into what they already have – self-belief, confidence, and their underlying desire to help people be their best, by following intuition.

    In my experience, that last one is crucial. You’ve either got a desire to coach people to be their best or you haven’t. Likewise with a lifelong love of learning. That can’t be taught. Only nurtured. And there are countless ways to do that, outside of buying a qualification.

    The same goes for hours spent coaching. 

    The best way to certify as a coach is to actually coach and learn through doing. Few professional bodies can supply enough hands-on practice – because it simply doesn’t scale. So they ask you to get on with it yourself and reflect; something a dedicated coach like myself finds compelling enough to do without having to pay to be told.

    A real, useful test of whether someone is qualified to be your coach

    Back to peace of mind. You want to know if I (or some other imposter) am up to the job. Can this coach coach? 

    This is where experiencing coaching before you commit comes into its own.

    Any good coach worth their fee will devote a decent chunk of time to making sure there’s what we call a ‘good fit’ between coach and client, face-to-face. Call it chemistry, magic or simply how well two people spark off each together – it all means the same thing. 

    Because coaching is such a life-changing, personal experience – for it to work and create lasting results, you absolutely need to ‘click’ with your coach. You need to ‘get’ each other. This is an intuitive process which takes time to get right. And again, it’s tricky to teach (or learn) and rarely fits on any coaching qualification syllabus.

    Try before you buy

    For most people, this is the ultimate criterion for deciding whether someone is sufficiently qualified to be your coach: can they actually coach you? I say ‘your’ because we’re all different. No decent coach will claim to be able to coach anyone. It’s all about that special connection between you, remember.

    The chief benefit of experiencing what coaching is like with a coach (before you sign-up) is you get to know whether or not it actually works. After screening whoever approaches me about coaching, I’ll invite them to a session, so they can see what it’s like firsthand for themselves.

    Over the course of at least two hours you’ll feel what it’s like being coached. No ‘trial’, ‘taster’ or ‘giveaway’ – it’s the real-thing. A full-fat coaching experience as if you’re already a client. You’ll gain proof it works for you, as well as useful, valuable insights – like you would any other coaching session, were you to hire me as your coach.

    I defy you to say that’s less concrete evidence of coaching competence than a piece of paper saying someone is qualified to coach.

    Another handy measure of whether a coach is qualified to coach you 

    Delve into their background, experience, worldview, life-story and career. What might they bring to your challenge? Do they get you?

    It’s not crucial, but coaches bring insight, stories and experience to a coaching conversation. The closer their worldview and values are to the way you relate to the world, the more valuable and impactful a coaching session will be. Because you’re both coming from a similar place. 

    You don’t want identical, just a nice balance of what you have in common, as well as a rich tapestry of expertise unfamiliar to you, to draw on.

    Does this coach intrigue you? Might they bring useful, relevant experiences to your coaching?

    For example, I’ve been on a lifelong mission to understand what makes things tick – like people and the systems we live within. I spent a decade as a systems analyst (think engineer crossed with a forensic detective), leading teams from different countries and cultures. Then another decade as a copywriter helping people say what they really mean to, and make sense of who they really are.

    For almost three years I’ve taught and coached individuals as a tutor at Leeds Beckett University’s new Technology Institute, mentoring professionals as they master new skills in digital and tech.

    I’ve travelled, built houses, written books, grown stuff, performed stand-up comedy, lead teams, and survived countless other failures, successes, relationships, tragedies and victories.

    Sure, there were bits of paper along the way – leadership courses, training and CPD seminars proving I’m qualified in my various arenas, but the bigger picture here is how might I relate that to your world? You can see clear threads in there around observing, questioning, and helping making sense of the world for others, as well as creativity, curiosity and resilience. 

    Pretty useful as a coach, or at least my clients seem to think so.

    How to get even more proof that someone is a trustworthy coach

    What do real people say about their coaching in testimonials? Is there a particular kind of person or group your coach seems best placed to help? What can the coach tell you about their challenges? Do their stories seem plausible and relatable? 

    Just bear in mind that decent coaches vehemently defend their clients’ privacy, so there might not be any published case studies with names. You can always ask for general, depersonalised stories though.

    This final suggestion might just be me and how I practice coaching, but it’s worth throwing in in case you’re my kind of person…

    Does this coach have an ethos behind why they coach? Are they on a bigger mission of their own? What are their principles? What do they stand for? 

    Can they tell you exactly what they look for in a new coaching client?

    Also, do they reflect on their practice? Do they journal and learn from every single coaching session? Is their practice growing and changing?

    Because who wants a coach who knows everything? Without curiosity there is no coaching.

    Not all decisions are entirely objective

    As you can see, there isn’t a straightforward answer to the question about whether someone is qualified to be your coach. Let’s be honest – you knew that, didn’t you?

    Personally, I think it’s handy to have a peg in the dirt when it comes to qualification. Some theoretical grounding – intellectual frameworks to build on yet ultimately soar above. My own practice is a mixture of hard-won experience coaching people throughout my various careers, plus textbooks, writing and being coached into coaching myself.

    I respect people who take time to invest in certification though. It demonstrates dedication, if not concrete proof of flawlessness. So I’m exploring formal training because it’s one less hurdle to getting closer to the people who want my help.

    Ultimately though, it comes down to trust

    Doesn’t everything?

    And trust forms through lived, shared experience. Human to human in conversation, nurturing a relationship. Paper is only ever a poor substitute for that.

    So, if you’re lucky enough to get an invite to a coaching session, meet a coach face-to-face (most will do this for free, no obligation, if there’s a good chance they can help). Get a feel for who they are and what they can do, not in general: for you and your specific challenge.

    See how honest and open they are with you too. 

    Look them straight in the eye. 

    Decent coaches are unashamedly themselves and don’t hold back. And the best ones will help you do the same.

    What will you personally get from being coached? 

    For all people I coach, this is the one true measure of credibility: what do you personally gain from the coaching experience in that very first session. 

    Do you feel less inhibited? Enlightened? Understood? Coaching nudges you step-by-step, closer to a dream, with breakthroughs and realisations along the way. It feels like lightbulbs coming on, as you change your mind, and imagination and creativity wake-up. 

    Did you feel any of that? 

    Like every big decision, committing to coaching and turning your dreams into projects isn’t entirely objective. There’s a place for emotion and instinct too, in a way many of us lose touch with. That’s what makes us feel so unsure and nervous, especially about hiring a coach. We’re forced to trust our feelings and face our fears. 

    Eurgh!

    You can experiment with courage though…

    Did you experience any of the feelings above? Are you intrigued? Are you curiously, inexplicably drawn to a coach? If so, perhaps you’re beginning to create something? Something special. Something worth exploring.